The Ugliness of Gay Conversion Therapy
It
is estimated that over 700,000 people currently living in the United
States have undergone some form of gay conversion therapy (about half were
teenagers at the time) designed to change them from homosexual to
heterosexual. Many of the groups offering
this miraculous transformation are religious in origin, the premier one in this
country being “Love In Action,” now renamed “Restoration Path” and still going
strong in 2019. A leading organization
having offshoots all over the world was “Exodus International,” which handled
many thousands of such cases before folding in 2013 [see Related Posts below].
These
gay conversion groups have many methods to turn homosexuals into
heterosexuals. In the recent movies “Boy
Erased” and “The Miseducation of Cameron Post” (both available for viewing on
the internet) the young people—a male in the first and a female in the second—are
placed in an environment very like a summer camp and rigorously trained on how
to behave in a heterosexual fashion (movements, clothes, etc.). There is a great deal of cruelty such as making
boys have supposed conversations with their father about why he failed to teach
them how to become true males, or, in a real life case making boys beat a
pillow representing their mother to punish her for turning them into sissies—see
http://www.nj.com/politics/index.ssf/2015/12/nj_gay-to-straight_conversion_therapy_practice_agr.html). Girls are taught how a real woman walks,
talks, looks and behaves. Much emphasis is placed on religious doctrine as they "pray away the gay."
How often does such treatment (or the similar efforts of professional counselors like psychologists) of produce happy heterosexuals where once there were only sinful homosexuals with twisted desires?
Never.
What
never? No, never. The best that can be
hoped for is that graduates will learn how to repress their homosexual urges
and live chaste and celibate lives.
Imagine how much fun that would be if it were offered to you as a life
style.
During my gay rights activist days and right up until the
current moment, I’ve had a standing offer about ex-gay conversion. I will
contribute $5000 to the charity of choice of an individual or organization that
can produce five men who were once gay and are now straight. There are various
conditions: (1) the men must have had significant gay experiences in their
lives, (2) become straight through whatever process, and (3) for at least five
years thereafter remained completely straight. Finally, they must not have ever
been leaders or volunteer workers for ex-gay organizations (just, therefore,
normal members) and pass rigorous tests to determine their current sexual
orientation (see me for details—I am serious about this—this offer is still open).
Since ex-gay organizations have been around for over thirty years, you’d think
they’d have thousands of former participants who’d easily meet my criteria, but
so far no one has taken me up on this. Note that I’m not proposing a bet.
If the person/organization can’t find five men who pass the tests, they lose
nothing other than a credibility that is often widely touted (though in
tatters whenever considered objectively). I would require that if five
converted straight men are not produced, the expenses of testing be paid for by
the entity accepting my challenge.
Frequently the founders of these anti-gay organizations sincerely repent
their actions later in life. Two of
Exodus International's co-founders (Michael Bussee and Gary Cooper) fell in
love while running the group and left it to get married. When Exodus International closed in 2013 the
then leader of the organization apologized for the pain, despair, and suicides
it had caused during its 37 year run.
Prior to that in 2007 three former leaders of EI came out as gay or
lesbian and issued a public apology for their roles in Exodus. In April 2010, one
of them confessed he'd never seen Exodus actually change any participant into a
heterosexual. Here’s another repentance
by a Mormon leader of a similar group: https://www.reddit.com/r/Documentaries/comments/b5xqv3/mormon_gay_conversion_therapist_comes_out_2019/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app.
Why doesn’t gay conversion work?
The answer is simple: sexual orientation is a not a choice, it is a biological imperative (all the science shows this,
see Related Posts below). Let me close
with a wonderful rant about this on Reddit from a male heterosexual; https://np.reddit.com/r/Christianity/comments/b4l8tc/this_is_very_good_shout_out/ej8vntx/:
I'm Christian, and the way we, as a whole, treat
gays is a sin.
We
lack EMPATHY. We don't think CLEARLY.
I'm a
straight male.
I
cannot IMAGINE being told that my NATURAL SEXUAL DESIRE for the opposite sex
is, according to "God's word", a sin. I would be DEVASTATED. If I
felt in my heart I love Jesus, and that 'most' of the bible is true, but the
very thing that makes me human (my sexuality) was a sin in itself, I would be
depressed and suicidal. I would be confused that God would make me born to feel
feelings for a woman that I'm now being told I'm "not supposed to
feel".
My
sexuality LITERALLY is WHO I AM, and no amount of "pray the straight
away" could EVER make me change my natural desires for the opposite sex. I
could PRETEND to be homosexual for the sake of fitting in and pleasing God, but
I would always bear the burden of knowing that God created me to mask and
pretend that I don't desire the opposite sex. I would resent God on some level
that his own book condemns me.
We
straight people take it for granted. We Christians like to say, "I'm not
saying homosexuality is the ONLY sin, because I sin, TOOOOOO!" Here's the
difference:
I can
STOP fornicating, lying, cheating, stealing, etc. But I cannot, under any
circumstance, under ANY THREAT OF HELL, make myself stop having feelings for the
opposite sex any more than a gay person can. It's IMPOSSIBLE.
I
could castrate myself, I suppose, as most gay Christians who claim to be
"straight" do who get married and have kids, but are secretly gay and
live with that secret for the rest of their life.
I
can't imagine being forced to have a same-sex marriage partner and lying to
myself all my life that "I'm gay now because Jesus/God loves me"
I
would carry so much resentment towards the church, God and Jesus, even if I
pretend that I'm a "changed man".
I put
myself in other people’s shoes. I use this thing God gave us called EMPATHY,
and it hurts my hurt when Christians don't think critically about what's in the
bible, because not everything written is true. Most of it is, but not ALL!
Scripture
was INSPIRED by God, written by men. Men, who had biases, and men who were not
gay (or may have been gay themselves who convinced themselves it was sin)
included it with all the other actual sins, making homosexuality look like a
sin, when God's Spirit corrected me on that. It's an error in the bible and if
Christians took the time to study the word homosexual in the bible and dig on
their history about it, they will find it was ADDED TO THE BIBLE and was never
part of the original Greek/Hebrew text. Someone who gave us our version of the
bible today hated gays and wanted everyone else to hate them, too. And it
worked.
Now,
some people would say I'm not a true Christian if I don't believe the word is a
PERFECT interpretation of what God want us to know. And that's fine. I grew up
with a gay friend who saw more persecution in a single WEEK than any living
Christian today has seen their entire lives. These people do not choose to be
gay any more than I chose to be straight. I can't see the sexual appeal of
another man even if I tried, and if seen enough naked male bodies to feel
nothing. In fact, when I watched porn, I didn't care for the male performer -
give me the lesbian stuff any day of the week.
But, I
digress.
Christians
don't understand that when you call someone’s sexual orientation a sin, it's
literally like calling THEM a sin, and there is no way for them to escape this
internal torture except pretend it doesn't exist (get married, have kids, and
say to yourself and others "I'm delivered!") or exit the church and
abandon God altogether because you were defect. At least, I know that's how I'd
feel if being heterosexual was a sin in the bible.
I had
to seek the Holy Spirit on this issue because something wasn't adding up, and
when God confirmed to me in multiple ways that homosexuality is NOT a sin, but
that it was INCLUDED in scripture by men who THOUGHT it was a sin based on
their own prejudices and biases, it made me sad.
EDIT:
Found an excellent article backing up my "claims" that homosexuality
is not and never was a sin. This article is to help my gay brothers and sisters
that you are perfectly fine the way God CREATED you and that your feelings ARE
natural.
You
are NOT to be FORCED to change who God made you to be to "appease" no
damn church even after salvation. You are NOT going to turn straight after you
get saved, so don't let no Christian put in your head that he will "help
you in that area". Your soul is literally attracted to the same sex. Your
soul mate IS the same sex, whoever he or she is. It's NOT a curse! It's NOT a
sin!
And
for you judgmental Christians out there who think I'm "less Christian then
you" because you believe blindly in text over the Holy Spirit, I strongly
suggest you set aside your assumptions and do a "heart check" before
God "checks you".
A lot
of these people want to live happy lives with their lovers in marriage, that's
why they pushed for it. Not to "encroach" upon your right to marry
the opposite sex. For centuries you've forced these people to have multiple sex
partners and never be allowed to commit under the union of God because of you
prejudices and biases due to your undying faith in the Bible over the heart of
God.
LISTEN
TO ME CLEARLY NOOOOOW! YOU HAVE MADE YOUR BIBLE AN IDOL! YOU HAVE MADE YOUR
BIBLE AN IDOL! AND YOU HAVE PLACED YOUR BIBLE ABOVE GOD AND HIS PEOPLE!!!
HIS
TWO GREATEST COMMANDMENTS IS LOVE GOD AND LOVE PEOPLE! BUT YOU LOVE
"BIBLE" MORE THAN PEOPLE! THERE IS A PRICE TO PAY FOR YOUR SIN, WHILE
YOUR QUICK TO JUDGE A SIN THAT DOESN'T EXIST EXCEPT IN MODERN TRANSLATIONS OF
THE BIBLE
Sorry
for the rant. I felt it needed to be said as a warning to you Christians who
think you got it all "figured out". You are in for a rude awakening
when God reveals how much sin you have in your heart to these people, and you
won't be able to use the "But, the bible told me so" as an excuse.
Okay. I'm done.
Currently
fifteen states and the District of Columbia, plus various cities, make gay conversion therapy
illegal; http://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/conversion_therapy
. More should join them and stop this unconscionable
cruelty that targets America’s children as their misguided parents send them trudging down a very ugly path.
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Related
Posts:
“A Guide to the Best of My Blog,” April 29, 2013;http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2013/04/a-guide-to-best-of-my-blog.html
“How
To Change Gay People Into Straight People,” September 20, 2010;
http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2010/09/how-to-change-gay-people-into-straight.html
http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2010/09/how-to-change-gay-people-into-straight.html
“Choose To Be Gay, Choose To Be
Straight,” January 25, 2011;
http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2011/01/choose-to-be-gay-choose-to-be-straight.html
http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2011/01/choose-to-be-gay-choose-to-be-straight.html
“A Homophobic Organization
Throws in the Towel: Goodbye to Exodus International,” June 21, 2013; http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2013/06/a-homophobic-organization-throws-in.html
“How To Cure Homophobia,” July
30, 2015; http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2015/07/how-to-cure-homophobia.html
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