What Atheists Can Learn From the Gay Movement
I’m in south Florida meeting up with various atheist groups
trying to promote “Imaginary Friend,” my atheist thriller, and at an event last
week one of the organizers compared the nonbeliever movement to the similar
battles so successfully waged in the last few decades by the gay community. I think there’s much to that comparison, but
major differences abound as well. This
blog post is about that.
When I was heavy into my gay activist period (the 80s and
90s) it never occurred to me that we’d be successful as quickly as events
proved. My generation was fueled by anger, but today’s activists are
animated by a sense of entitlement to
their share of the American dream, an attitude, amazingly, now shared by the
majority of the straights in this country.
With all those people thinking that gays ought to be treated like
everybody else, it’s come true in a breathtakingly short period of time. Whenever it occurs to me how brief was the journey
from pariah to (ho hum) neighbor, I’m gobsmacked. I certainly never thought it would happen in
my lifetime.
Atheists these days are truly making gains but they aren’t
(as a group) even up to the “anger” stage. Instead,
too often they’re content to pass unnoticed, much like the hidden homosexual
community of, say, the 1960s. Leaders of
atheist groups don’t have that attitude, and their anger can be palpable and fierce,
but their sense of the wrongness of society’s attitude towards nonbelievers is
not always shared by their followers, and certainly by not by most
nonbelievers, who would rather not discuss the subject and prefer to be left
alone with what they view as a private matter.
We saw that same lassitude in the gay community in the early days (“Why
are you stirring things up?---we’re doing fine in our closet, thank you very
much”). That’s understandable, of course,
but it won’t lead to a change in society’s treatment of atheists anytime soon.
To remedy it atheists (under whatever name: freethinker,
secular humanists, nonbeliever) must learn to gather together, exchange views,
and, as the opportunity arises, take actions to protest or remedy injustices
(pitching children from their home if they won’t attend church) or our-and-out
illegal activity (firing people because they are nonbelievers, for example). Many atheist groups hold annual events to
fire up the non-faithful. February 12 is
“Darwin Day” (his birthday) and here in Florida a number of groups are holding
festivities celebrating his life and educating people about his work and
beliefs. Others have book clubs, regular
meetings with programs, and even radio and TV shows. I’ve done bookreadings from my novel at such
events in four states.
As the gay movement did, atheists must pick their battles
carefully. Where an obvious injustice
has occurred (the Boy Scouts now say they’ll allow gay but not atheist scouts)
public sympathy can be brought to bear to aid the protest. But demonstrations that have as their only function
riling the other side (1) don’t attract public sympathy and (2) are
counterproductive because the despised group ends up even more despised. We saw this in the gay community. A chant at a pride parade of “Two-four-six-eight---How do you know your
wife is straight?” is a mistake. It’s
the equivalent of poking the bear, and it gains you enemies but no
friends.
Atheists therefore should
concentrate their efforts on asking for the right to be treated like everyone else, and to be judged on whether
they are good people or bad people and not on their religious beliefs (or lack
thereof)---a matter of privacy all people deserve. But an atheist group that attacks the very concept
of religious belief is going too far, and that particular bear is going to bite
back Religious actions should only be
directly attacked when they wrongly warp public policy. Using the Bible to keep women in their place,
gays from the altar, or to invade a Muslim land is wrong and should be
condemned as such. Ronald Reagan
appointed a Secretary of the Interior who allowed the looting of the public
parks because he was a devout man who believed Jesus was about to return and
thus there was no need to protect the environment. That particular bear should be beaten
senseless.
The biggest thing the atheist movement can learn from the
gay movement is the importance of coming
out. When society discovered how very
many homosexuals lived in its midst, and that gays were children, neighbors,
coworkers, etc., continued hatred of gays became harder to maintain. These days public homophobia is limited to
nut cases (“God Hates Fags”) or pockets of repression in small communities that
have yet to get the message. When we
started the gay rights battles in Columbus, Ohio, in the early 80s, we had a
mayor who called us “homos” and a congressman who declared he had no gay
constituents even though his district encompassed both the Ohio State University
campus and German Village, the leading gay neighborhood in the city. Nowadays
the mayor comes to all the gay events and our congressional representatives
eschew any hint of homophobia (excepting the Republican opposition to gay
marriage). If all the closet atheists out
there told their families, neighbors, coworkers, etc., of their nonbelief a
similar transformation would eventually occur.
So, blog reader, if you’re a nonbeliever, don’t take pride in keeping
that to yourself. However painful, you
should start telling people. Begin with
the “safe” ones (your best friend who’s not religious) and go on from
there. Just as the gays did, you will
find the experience liberating. By asserting
who you are you become part of an important movement now occurring on this
planet. You only have one life to
live. Make the most of it.
But there’s one major difference between the gay and the atheist
movements which makes things much harder for the latter. Once society listened to the evidence that
gays were not moral monsters and were just like everyone else except for the
person they loved, gays presented no real danger to ordinary life, and
acceptance of gays was relatively painless.
But atheists are a danger to
the very foundation most people stand on: a belief in an afterlife and the
protection of a benevolent deity. If
atheists are right and that belief is wrong (so that humans live and die with
no more hope of salvation than the ant you stepped on this morning on the way
to work), that message is abhorrent and will be resisted loudly by huge numbers
of very upset people. It’s for this reason that atheists are demonized like few
others, witness the following:
Okay---atheism is a hard sell, but whoever said you only get to do easy things in life? However hard the task, atheists are working at accomplishing it. Join them.
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Related
Posts:
“Catholicism and Me (Part One),” March 13,
2010
"The
Aging Gay Rights Activist," March 24, 2010
“Superstitions,”
March 21, 2010
“Catholicism
and Me (Part Two),” April 18, 2010
“How I Lost
a Gay Marriage Debate,” April 29, 2010
“How To
Become an Atheist,” May 16, 2010
“Imaginary
Friend,” June 22, 2010
“I Don’t Do
Science,” July 2, 2010
“The
Deathbed Test,” July 27, 2010
“Explosion
at Ohio Stadium,” October 9, 2010 (Chapter 1 of my novel)
“When
Atheists Die,” October 17, 2010
"Escape
From Ohio Stadium," November 2, 2010 (Chapter 2)
"Open
Mouth, Insert Foot," November 21, 2010 (Chapter 3)
"Rock
Around the Sun," December 31, 2010
"The
Homosexual Agenda To Conquer the World," February 8, 2011
"Muslim
Atheist," March 16, 2011
"An
Atheist Interviews God," May 20, 2011
"A
Mormon Loses His Faith," June 13, 2011
"Is
Evolution True?" July 13, 2011
"Atheists,
Christmas, and Public Prayers," December 9, 2011
"An
Atheist's Christmas Card," December 23, 2011
"Urban
Meyer and the Christian Buckeye Football Team," February 19, 2012
"Intelligent
Design, Unintelligent Designer?" May 12, 2012
"My
Atheist Thriller: Another Book Reading," May 17, 2012
"The
History of Gay Rights in Columbus, Ohio," June 4, 2012
"'The
God Particle' and the Vanishing Role of God," July 5, 2012
“I
Support the Right of the Boy Scouts To Ban Gays,” July 24, 2012
“Update:
Urban Meyer and the NON-Christian Buckeye Football Team,” August 24, 2012
“Mitt
Romney: A Mormon President?” October 17, 2012
“The End of
the World: Mayans, Jesus, and Others,” December 17, 2012
“Straight
People: Thanks From the LGBT Community,” November 20, 2012
“Gay
Marriage, DOMA, Proposition 8 and the Mysterious Supreme Court,” January 15,
2013
“A Guide to the Best of My Blog,” April 29, 2013
“A Guide to the Best of My Blog,” April 29, 2013
I've been thinking this more and more as I watch the secular movement. Its why I tend to focus on ethics rather than scientistic arguments.
ReplyDeleteThis is why Americans United 'dangerous mingling of religion & politics' billboards are much more effective than AA/FFRF's messages.