When Good Things Happen All at Once
We’re
very much aware of periods in our lives when troubles mount and we’re
overwhelmed by miserable events which pile one atop another. As Shakespeare says, “When sorrows come, they
come not single spies, but in battalions!”
We are less likely to take note of the opposite: those rare times when
goods things also come in “battalions.” I’m
experiencing that now, and . . . well . . . it’s wonderful!
There
was a time in the early 80s up through the mid-90s when I was much involved in
gay rights here in Columbus, Ohio. I’ve
written about this in other posts [see “The History of Gay Rights in Columbus,”
http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2012/06/history-of-gay-rights-in-columbus.html
], and won’t go into detail here except to say that I was one of the people who
helped found Stonewall Columbus, our LGBT organization, in 1981, and am proud
of the work we all did in those days to make our city known as one of the most
gay-friendly spots in the country. Our
gay pride parades started in 1982 with 825 marchers, and this past year around
400,000 participated (making it second in size in the Midwest only to Chicago). Nowadays I am one of the old fogies who
younger gay rights advocates sometime trot out as an exhibit, but in the past
couple of weeks much of this history has come to life again due to a rare visit
to Columbus by the wonderful Rhonda Rivera (these days she lives in
Albuquerque).
Rhonda
is the reason that Columbus is so gay accepting. She joined the Ohio State Law School faculty
in the summer of 1976, and since we were the only two out gay faculty members
we quickly became friends. When Stonewall
Columbus (then called “Stonewall Union”) began, I immediately asked her to help
us, and she not only did that: she took over.
Rhonda is a force to be reckoned with: she bullied the law school into
accepting gay rights, and then did the same to the governor, the mayor, and the
President of The Ohio State University.
She organized everything, including a major response to the AIDS crisis
when it came to Columbus. While doing
this she also made herself a power on the national scene. I once told the San Francisco Chronicle that
her name should be spelled “RHONDA!!!” [all caps, three exclamation
marks]. We were on radio and TV shows
together and with others such as the great Craig Covey, and because I always
did what Rhonda told me to do I achieved some renown just by being in her
shadow.
When
she decided to pay us a visit this month at one point she stayed with my
husband David Vargo and me. Stonewall
Columbus is creating a video series documenting its history, and they arranged
a session in which they videoed an interview with Rhonda, then one with me, and
then one with the two of us together. It
was wonderful reliving those fascinating (and sometimes scary) days, and I was
quick to point out on camera that Rhonda was the reason that in Columbus gay
men and lesbians have always gotten along so very well.
When
I retired from fulltime teaching in 2004 I went back to doing things that I had
done in my youth: playing tournament bridge, writing fiction, and acting and
directing in theaters. This has been a
banner year for all of those activities.
I’ve written about the theater often in my blog, but let me mention
recent developments in the other two areas.
I
have now published two thrillers: “Imaginary Friend” (2008) and “Corbin Milk”
(2014). “Imaginary Friend” has been
doing quite well, and recently I took out an ad in Free Inquiry Magazine, the leading journal for atheists, to
publicize both. This has led to a nice
increase in sales. I originally wrote “Imaginary
Friend” because I was annoyed at how casually people will discriminate against
atheists, and I wanted to show why that is wrong (even for devout believers). To make the message more palatable I
delivered it in the form of a thriller.
The book begins with an explosion at halftime at Ohio Stadium during a
football game, and things spin out from there in ways that are both exciting
and even funny, until we reach an ending reviewers on Amazon all thought was a
major surprise. Two weeks ago the
Humanist Community of Central Ohio asked me to do another book reading from “Imaginary
Friend” (it was the second book reading for them, the first being in
2011). It was fun to read a couple of
selections from the book (about a half hour’s worth) to an attentive audience
that included my husband. Even better, HCCO
made a video of my reading, and posted it on YouTube, where, if interested, you
can find it at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpwXg4nBKSY&feature=youtu.be.
I
started playing bridge when I was in high school, and then when I married
Charleyne Adolay in 1971 she and I played tournament bridge regularly. A major goal of bridge players is to become a
“Life Master,” which typically takes a long time since you must win points in
tournaments: black points for club games, silver and red for some tournaments,
and gold points for the biggest. These
points are not worth anything other than the honor of having earned them, but
are a big deal among bridge players.
Since a player must travel a lot to play in some of the top tournaments
it’s been estimated that becoming a Life Master costs around $10,000. I have now earned all the points (over 350) I
need except 1.83 gold points, and in two weeks I will play in a tournament in
Louisville with my regular partner Lewis Rakocy, where I am almost certain to
pick up more than enough points to finally become a Life Master. This is the sort of thing that sounds crazy
to those not involved in bridge, but I’m very pleased, and I called Charleyne
recently to tell her about it. She was
thrilled for me (she is no longer playing in tournaments, but she and her
husband are playing occasionally at bridge centers).
With Lew Rakocy (far right) at tournament |
I’ve
lamented on this blog before about the tragedy of being a Chicago Cubs fan, but
I can proudly say that this year, to the surprise of all, they have made it
into the postseason, and began well by eliminating the two teams—St. Louis and
Pittsburgh—that had the best records in baseball (the Cubs had the third best
record)! I have been cheering mightily
at each televised game, scaring the cats.
[Sherman's Lagoon; click to enlarge] |
David and Abby |
Speaking
of cats, there is another happy development: David and I have adopted another
rescue cat, this one a four year old totally black female (a “Halloween cat,”
my nephew Adam pointed out), named Abby.
Our other two cats, Barney and Mama, are suspicious, but things are
going well, and Abby’s a happy addition to our home.
Last
Saturday I went with David to Ohio Stadium to see the Buckeyes beat
Penn State, and everyone wore black because the uniforms of the players were (mysteriously)
black just for this one night. David had
never seen a live football game, and it was a thrill for me to return to the
Horseshoe (I’d had season tickets for twenty years when I was a fulltime member
of the faculty, working my seats to three rows up on the 45 yard line) and to once
again experience all the rituals that make being a Buckeye so special.
A Dark Night at the 'Shoe |
Now add to everything listed above this: I have a
wonderful husband, great friends, and am glad that my health is excellent as I
reach the sixth anniversary of my heart transplant (November 23, 2009). I smilingly announce that at this particular
point in my life I can much appreciate that I’m a lucky and happy man. I wish all my readers similar felicitous periods
in their own lives.
Related
Posts:
“A
Guide to the Best of My Blog,” April 29, 2013, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2013/04/a-guide-to-best-of-my-blog.html
“The Aging Gay Rights Activist," March 24, 2010, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2010/03/aging-gay-rights-activist.html
“Just Published: My Novel ‘Corbin Milk,’ a Thriller Detailing the
Adventures of a Gay CIA Agent,” April 18, 2014, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2014/04/just-published-my-novel-corbin-milk.html
“Imaginary Friend,” June 22, 2010, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2010/06/imaginary-friend.html
“The World’s Greatest Game [Bridge] Needs You,” June 20, 2011, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2011/06/worlds-greatest-game-bridge-needs-you.html
“Stepping on Cats,” February 8, 2012, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2012/02/stepping-on-cats.html
“My Sad Tale of Being a Chicago Cubs Fan,” May 27,
2015; http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2015/05/my-sad-tale-of-being-chicago-cubs-fan.html
“About That Heart Transplant,” January 24, 2010, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2010/01/about-that-heart-transplant.html
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