BDSM players are engaged in a sexual/sensual game. Their play sessions are called “scenes” and the implements (whips, clamps, restraints, etc.) are “toys.” This is consensual fun involving whatever activity the players think is worth exploring. A famous BDSM expert once said that the leather world is like a smorgasbord: take from the table what you want and ignore the rest. Some players want only bondage and nothing more, others only domination/submission, while yet others want to explore the line between pleasure and pain and see what it’s like to keep the bottom suspended in that moment for as long as possible.
"Rape, Biology, and Tricks of the Mind," January 8, 2015, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2015/01/rape-biology-and-tricks-of-mind.html
“A Guide to the Best of My Blog,” April 29, 2013, http://douglaswhaley.blogspot.com/2013/04/a-guide-to-best-of-my-blog.html