Douglas and David Get Married
On Friday morning we went to the New York City Clerk’s office to get a marriage license, and that experience was one of the highlights of the trip. Even at 10:30 a.m. the halls were filled with couples, many of whom were to be married on the spot by a Justice of the Peace, and so things were very festive. The happy couples were about evenly divided between straight and gay, young and old, and some had wedding parties at the ready with confetti in hand. Our favorites were two lipstick lesbians, young and beautiful, both in identical traditional white wedding gowns, bouquets and all, smiling brightly. The clerk who staffed the window issuing our license was great fun, and in the movie version of all this will be played by Whoopi Goldberg. When I commented to her that her job had to be “good fun,” she replied, “For you it’s fun, for me it’s a job—with good days and bad days.” When asked what were bad days, she mentioned the not infrequent quarrels that couples applying for a license sometimes engaged in right at her window (“You don’t want to change your name?”), and commented that there was a good reason for the mandatory 24 hour waiting period between the issuance of the license and the ceremony. Asked what were good days, she smiled. “For example, when they give me a box of chocolates.”
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The very instant that I saw you, did
My heart fly to your service.
There will it reside until the last instant of my oh-so-blessed life.
In your heart, I have found a true and everlasting love.
And in your soul, I have found my friend, my teacher, my companion, and my mate.
With you, I am happy, empowered, and alive.
You have made me feel safe in a turbulent and unstable world.
You have restored my faith in humankind and given me a reason to look forward to each new day.
I am yours.
You are mine.
Of this I am certain.
You now live in my heart and will remain there all the days of my life.
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Since then David and I are settling into married life. He’s found a good job right down the street from where we live, and so for the first part (at least) of 2014 we’ll be staying in Columbus. We took the condo off the market for now, and were immediately given an offer on it that we had to refuse. Future blog posts will explore some elements of our new life: the fun we have on a daily basis clowning with each other and developing running gags, the delicate tension between an atheist married to a believer, the reactions of a native Floridian to snow and ice and the mania of Buckeye football, and much, much more.
"Doug Update: Health, Acting, Book Readings, and Snowbirding," September 6, 2012
"Snowbirding, My iPhone 5, and the Coming Crazy Cat Trip," December 12, 2012