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Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Why Even Believers Should Read My Atheist Thriller “Imaginary Friend”




While doubtless most of the sales of my atheist thriller “Imaginary Friend” have been to nonbelievers, I’ve been pleased to hear from a goodly number of readers who believe in God but contacted me one way or the other to tell me how much they enjoyed reading the novel.  The reason is that while it does express an atheist viewpoint, the novel is really about how atheists are discriminated against in a way that Americans would not tolerate if such hatred was casually focused on any other minority.  All sensitive readers can appreciate why that is wrong. 

Moreover the book truly is a thriller.  It begins with an explosion at half-time at a college football game that immures our protagonist deep inside a collapsed stadium, and the action moves from one tense event to the next until it climaxes in an ending that scared me when I finally finished the book, waited a month to see what I had, and then re-read it and was much bothered by the fact that such extreme violence came from my own sappy, peace-loving brain.



Even so the book has a lot of humor and is filled with characters that readers seem to love.  Even the villains are presented as sympathetically as possible.

Here are the complete reviews on Amazon put there by actual readers, none of which I generated myself, nor are any of the reviewers close friends (at least at the time the reviews were written).  For any updates or later reviews see http://www.amazon.com/Imaginary-Friend-Douglas-Whaley-ebook/product-reviews/B0057Q1ZA6/ref=dp_top_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1.  The next-to-last review is the only negative one, and that from a reader who didn’t read the whole book, damn his hide—he missed that ending I’m so proud of.



15 of 16 people found the following review helpful

 4.0 out of 5 stars Devil in the Details, September 30, 2008

By Tim Brough "author and music buff" (Springfield, PA United States) - See all my reviews
(TOP 1000 REVIEWER) (VINE VOICE)

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback)  Imagine if: After the horrors of 9/11, a man who bravely helped rescue some 50 odd survivors in a highly visual fashion was videoed doing this incredible feat. He'd be a proclaimed a hero, paraded around, commended by The President and promptly shoved on some news show (ala Larry King Live) and made to talk about the experience. What would happen if he decided (with a little alcoholic lubrication) to say to a caller that God was not there to give him the strength to save the survivors, but that following an "imaginary friend" was exactly why terrorists were killing people.

Thus is the premise of "Imaginary Friend." Franklin Whitestone, hero of a 9/11 styled attack on a football stadium finds his life turned upside down when he announces what he really thinks about God on a national television show. He and his family swoop from American Heroes to American Pariahs in the scope of two days, once the faithful feel threatened more by a single atheist and his family than multiple bands of terrorists. Whitestone, his son Todd and his former wife Mary now have to dodge a marauding press corps, Money Grubbing Mega-Church leaders, old girlfriends, unhappy employers and gun toting ChritsoFacists if they want to live through a quintessential American Nightmare resulting from not being very careful what you say in front of a live microphone (or post on the internet).

Inventive and well thought out characters make this a compelling read, as does the detailed writing style. The description of Nan and Dan's gun collection is alone enough to give you the creeps. Todd Whitestone, the precocious and gifted 16 year old son, is also a highlight of "Imaginary Friend" as he tries his best to help his father from a jam. Catherine, Franklin's alpha-mother, gets the best laughs as the Queen Bee of the Whitestone hive. Add the satirical bent of our instant-celebrity culture (an agent who advises Franklin just how rich he can get with a good PR man), and you get an entertaining novel about just how absurd the world of organized religion can get.

 

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A Foxhole Atheist, November 3, 2008

By Joseph Mensch (New York, NY) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback)  The atheist movement, slowly growing in this country, has been given a sudden boost from an unknown author named Douglas Whaley whose new novel, "Imaginary Friend," combines an impassioned polemic with a sophisticated thriller. The attempt alone would have been enough, but the end result is more powerful and entertaining than anything the atheist movement (or, for the most part, the thriller movement) has come up with so far.


The story is about a lawyer, Franklin Whitestone, who rescues 53 people from a burning stadium but becomes a hunted man when he speaks candidly about his atheist views on national TV. The breathless chase across Ohio involves not just Franklin but Franklin's family, whose escape from their demented kidnappers is one of the high points of the novel. Franklin meets some colorful characters along the way, including Corbin Milk, a gay ex-C.I.A. agent who helps Franklin with his disguise, and Jonathan Harker, a PR agent who insists that Franklin can make tons of money from his ordeal. Even the God-fearing militant hunters have their virtues and sympathies. One is often pleasantly surprised, even relieved, by the humor that Whaley mines from the darkest and grisliest situations.

For many years the atheists' cause has rested on the shoulders of writers like Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, and most recently, Christopher Hitchens, whose logical arguments, while unassailable on their own terms, often fail to take the fight where it would really count, namely, the psychological realm. Religious fanatics will not be swayed by any number of scientific arguments that disprove the possibility of talking snakes; they hold the trump card of "The Lord works in mysterious ways." But if you can tap into their basic sympathies for their fellow man and demonstrate how destructive religion has been to innocent people (including all the deaths at the football stadium, bombed by an Islamic terrorist), you might be able to turn some heads. This is where "Imaginary Friend" succeeds so well.

 

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars frightenly feasible outcome, February 13, 2012

By V. Sandy "V" (Prescott,AZ)  See all my reviews
(REAL NAME)

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Kindle Edition)  and unfortunately in this post 9-11 world, with all the christian religous militancy tossed about by politicians... everything that befalls the unlikely hero of this tale is frightenly feasible

 

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Friend to Foe, December 9, 2012

By Biodork (Minneapolis, MN) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback)  Perhaps no character in literary history has gone as quickly from cherished hero to reviled villain as Franklin Whitestone of Douglas Whaley's novel, Imaginary Friend.

Franklin Whitestone finds himself an unwitting hero after surviving a terrorist bomb attack in a crowded stadium. After television crews film him playing a critical role in the safe escape of himself and other victims, he is instantly transformed into a national celebrity. Franklin is is flown in high style to New York to appear on a live call in-show to recount his experience. The interview starts out well, but when a caller ask if he was praying to God for strength during his ordeal, he scoffs and proudly boasts about not having an "imaginary friend". He goes on to ask the caller why God should be credited for getting him out of the mess, but not blamed for the terrorist attack happening in the first place. The studio erupts in shock and outrage.

Before he understands what has happened, Franklin finds him the subject of hatred, anger, reproach and pity. Everything he holds dear is threatened by his new notoriety, and a dangerous religious extremist - one of the same men who helped free the Franklin from the stadium - sets out to "save him" a second time.

If you have ever suffered social rejection or for your non-belief, Imaginary Friend will haunt you. Franklin's detractors spout familiar religious criticisms of atheism, but Whaley's characters are complex; they have minds and flaws of their own, and don't always respond in the way we wish they would. The story is thrilling, heartbreaking, at times infuriating,and always hard to set down.

 

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Do you believe?, May 28, 2012

By MMB - See all my reviews

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback)  When I read the title of this book, I imagined a well-written, simple story about a young boy and his all too troublesome imaginary friend. After reading the book's back cover description, I understood that indeed the story is about an imaginary friend who is troublesome but it would not be a simple story.

Can America accept a man who saved 53 lives in a bomb-ravaged football stadium but didn't do it in the name of God? Can an atheist be a hero?

Douglas Whaley answers these questions in this chilling novel. He skillfully handles a suspenseful, can't-put-this-book-down, plot while bringing America's religious intolerance out into the light. His characters are frighteningly real and their development is superb.

 

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars A good thriller, August 9, 2013

By BeerWill - See all my reviews

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Kindle Edition)  To me Imaginary Friend has a few flaws in writing style - (I believe this is the author's first fiction book) - but the book is nevertheless a good thriller.

I was concerned that it would be too atheist-preachy, and while it does certainly put atheism in a positive light, the characters are realistically flawed which allows the story to be a good read, while still making some good counter-apologetics points.

 

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars You get what you axe for, February 7, 2013

By Richard Schwartz (Hawthorne, California) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback) Good story about a commonly persecuted religion. The believer confesses his faith and then must deal with a series of hate crimes. It is better to keep your faith to yourself and pretend to conform to whatever is around you. Very well done. Now lets team this author with Matt Bracken and Wesley ,Rawles for the ultimate action movie script!

 

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Great atheist thriller and all around great book, December 9, 2012

By Carl (BLOOMINGTON, MN, United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback)  Douglas does a wonderful job of bringing these characters to life and making you feel for them even the ones who tend to be blinded by religion. This book is something that would make anyone who questions religion and it's implications of what it is to be an atheist in America. There are questions you will have to ask yourself of when it is the right time to come out as an atheist and the book addresses that. Hopefully this will reach a broad audience and will help them come out as proud atheists.

 

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Surprisingly good thriller, April 29, 2012

By David L. Murray (Phoenix, Arizona USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Kindle Edition)  Douglas Whaley is a very skilled author. This was a wonderful thriller. At times the stereotyping seemed a bit much and I wondered if it would be just another atheist rant. It turns out that it was more that that, it was a very good story.


1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Coming out, April 11, 2012

By WILLIAM EVERS (W LAFAYETTE, IN United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Kindle Edition)  This is a scary great book. The fear and hatred of atheists is stronger and has more support than most other animosities aimed at specific groups. Douglas Whaley's matter-of-fact presentation of the malice shown to those who see no evidence for anything supernatural was uplifting. The main character takes his outlook on life as a sensible way to live and sees no reason to be "in the closet" about it. The ignorance and cowardly actions of those whose mental processes have been destroyed by a lifetime of religious brainwashing are depressingly and truthfully laid out. This is a book that should be on all required high school reading lists.   

 

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

 5.0 out of 5 stars Life with Religious Differences Brought to Life, February 18, 2012

By Humanist Living - See all my reviews

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback)  Exciting! Doug Whaley has opened new territory with his engaging novel "Imaginary Friend." Although much has already been written debating questions raised by religion, Whaley is one of the first to use fiction to bring to life the experiences of people living with those religious differences. "Imaginary Friend" should be read by anyone who cares about religious freedom.

 

2.0 out of 5 stars Intent, writing, characters just OK; story implausible and plodding, October 16, 2013

By KM Thiesmeyer (Pasadena, CA, US) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Kindle Edition)  Whaley is a lawyer and gets those parts right. But the writing is very ordinary, little imagery, no dramatic flourishes, not much to engage the reader except the theology, which is simplistic, and the story, which is far-fetched. It has been almost 20 years since famed school-prayer dissident Madelyn Murray O'Hair disappeared, then turned up murdered at the hands of characters like Whaley's. And notable public atheists like Penn Gillette, Daniel Radcliffe, Brad Pitt, Woody Allen, Bill Maher, James Randi and George Carlin -- not to mention Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, Isaac Asimov, Daniel Dennet, Bill Gates and thousands more -- all seem to do fine (OK, perhaps with money and bodyguards). In any case, the simmering hate in this case seems unlikely for today. The escape from the kidnappers using Pig Latin is ridiculous, although Whaley does manage to make them sympathetic. There are a couple of Biblical quotations that suffer the same interpretive, out-of-context arrogance as any religious tome. The sub-plot love triangle is sparse and unaffecting. I quit at 67% read; didn't think I'd like the dénouement. Save this one for an afternoon at the beach, and then leave it in the sand.

 

5.0 out of 5 stars Gripping and surprising, September 14, 2013

By Carolie Park - See all my reviews

This review is from: Imaginary Friend (Paperback)  I got this book as a gift from someone who knew I was an atheist. From the title, I expected something more like the hundreds of books that have been written to dispute or disprove the existence of god. Ho-hum . . . I'm already convinced. I was delighted to find that it was a real-life thriller of post 9/11 America whose story line includes believers and non-believers of every stripe. Each of the characters are plausibly flawed and well developed individuals. Some are heroic and others are villainous, and all feel authentic.


The ghastly and harrowing situations depicted are so incredibly detailed as to make one certain that the author is describing personal experiences, and doing an excellent job of it. The unnerving ending is a shocker, but follows inevitably from the nature of the protagonists.
This is a book that everyone can enjoy-regardless of religious stance. And, it will make every reader think about the America we live in and the dilemmas that face us in a fast-changing world.



“Imaginary Friend” is available on Amazon.com for $9.84 (Paperback) or $2.99 (Kindle).  The prequel to “Imaginary Friend” tells the backstory of Corbin Milk, one of the characters in “Imaginary Friend,” and it will be published next month.  It is simply called “Corbin Milk.”   See Related Posts below for a detailed description of it.


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Related Posts:
"Frightening the Horses," April 7, 2010
“Imaginary Friend,” June 22, 2010
“How To Change Gay People Into Straight People,” September 20, 2010 (Excerpt from "Corbin Milk")
Explosion at Ohio Stadium,” October 9, 2010 (Chapter 1 of "Imaginary Friend")
"Escape From Ohio Stadium," November 2, 2010 (Chapter 2)
"Open Mouth, Insert Foot," November 21, 2010 (Chapter 3)
"My Atheist Thriller: Another Book Reading," May 17, 2012
“Listen to Me Reading My Novel on the Radio,” December 11, 2012
“‘Imaginary Friend’ Goes International: A Bookreading of My Atheist Thriller in Nottingham,      England, Via Skype,” March 19, 2013 
“Speaking at Atheist Conventions, Directing a Play, and that Move to Florida,” July 5, 2013
“The Thunderbolt,” September 9, 2010 (Explaining "Corbin Milk")
Fifty Shades of Leather: Corbin Milk in the BDSM World,” December 26, 2012 
"A Guide to the Best of My Blog," April 29, 2013

Monday, October 21, 2013

Falling in Love, Turning 70, and Getting Married


David Vargo and Me

A lot has happened this year and it’s all been terrific.  As readers of this blog may remember, for the first time in my life I decided to snowbird in Florida, leaving my Ohio home in late December (cats in the car), and moving to Wilton Manors, a suburb of Fort Lauderdale, for January, February, and March.  On Saturday, January 12, I went to a event at a gay bar and this very handsome man came walking by me.  Not one to let these adventures escape, I made a funny remark to him, and he turned, gave me one of the most dazzling smiles I’ve ever seen, and made a funny remark in reply.  We’ve more or less been together ever since, first in Florida and now in Ohio.

Barney and Mama Help David Work
His name is David Vargo.  He’s a graphic designer by occupation, but his background is in theater, including acting at a professional level, and, at one point in his youth, moving to New York to study Shakespeare at the National Shakespeare Conservatory.  Born in Miami, he was raised by his adoptive parents in Fort Lauderdale and they turned him into a first class human being.  In addition to that dazzling smile he’s quick of wit, very personable, and for reasons that passeth understanding very much in love with me.  My cats, Barney and Mama, took to him right away in Florida and were delighted when he moved to Ohio to stay with me here until we can sell my condo and return to his native state.  My only concerns about our union are twofold.  He’s only 55, and initially I strongly stated that our mutual passion was to last through only a short term relationship since it would be unfair to him to saddle him with an aging partner soon to turn 70.  He protested, but I was firm . . . until late March when the April 1st deadline of my return to Ohio loomed and the wrongness of parting from him became clear.  At that point I proposed, he accepted, and we’ll see how this age difference works out as the years advance.  I do feel guilty about it and the old codger it might saddle David with.  The second trouble spot is that he was reared a Catholic and, while he isn’t devout about the strictures of the church or even attending mass often, God is very important to him.  I too was raised a Catholic (as readers of this blog may know) but I long ago reached the status of devout atheist.  How to handle this dramatic difference?  The answer so far has been to draw strict lines.  We understand each other’s beliefs (or non-beliefs), accept same, and carefully avoid talking about the differences in any critical way.  He gamely attended a meeting of atheists when we were in Florida and I reciprocated by going to one in which everyone in the room except me was a firm believer.  We’re done with that sort of exchange and now simply agree to disagree.  Since his God is central to him, I’m working hard not to use my persuasive abilities or instincts as a professional teacher to affect his beliefs in any way.

David has met my sister Mary Beth and her husband Rich (in Florida, without me being there!), and my Columbus family group has welcomed him with open arms.  Both during his visit to Columbus in May and recently with his move here, they’ve welcomed him into our circle with enthusiasm, for which we are both grateful. 


David with Mary Beth and Richard Colpitts, July 2013


One major gathering was a party for my 70th birthday.  The actual date of the birthday was September 25th of this year, but the party was held the following Saturday, September 28th.   My son and daughter-in-law flew in from Seattle, my ex-wife Charleyne and her husband John drove from Indianapolis, and other friends came from other cities to join twenty or so local celebrants.  The highlights of the evening were the showing of a DVD about my life that I’d put together, followed by the now traditional singing of the evil Big Birthday song, written by my son Clayton and myself for birthdays that end in a zero [see Related Posts below for more on that].


The First Slide in the DVD Shown at the Party
 
David and I Discuss Cutting the Huge Cake
 
Singing the Evil "Big Birthday Song"

Turning 70 is both a happy event for someone who had a heart transplant almost four years ago, making it a milestone I’m delighted have reached, but it’s also a scary birthday because of what it says about my age.  There’s no way to finesse the number “70.”  It isn’t the “new” anything (like the “new 60,” etc.).  Say it softly or with a smile or through copious tears and it’s still 70.  People who hear my age often comment that I don’t look it, but, in the words of the Big Birthday song, “they’re just being kind.” 
 
The best news is that David and I are flying to New York City next month to get married on Saturday, November 9th at the home of a friend.  The reasons for the marriage are numerous.  Of course there’s the romantic and sentimental side of a marriage, and that’s very important, but in the past I’ve avoided a marriage that would be purely symbolic.  However the Supreme Court decision in the Windsor case this past June now requires the federal government to recognize gay marriages that are valid in the state in which contracted (like New York), and that adds a legal component to the marriage that the lawyer in me thinks vital.  After we’re wed if I were to die David would get Social Security benefits, veteran benefits, etc., and in the meantime we can avoid inheritance tax issues while taking advantage of federal income tax rules favoring couples like us.  Also it’s clear (for reasons I’ve explained in prior posts) that the Supreme Court will soon have to declare that a marriage entered into in one state is valid in all states, which will then make our marriage legal in both Ohio and Florida (states not currently recognizing such marriages).
There’s a final reason for getting legally married.  In the early 80s and throughout the 90s I fought many a battle alongside many others for gay rights.  In those days it never occurred to any of us that in our lifetimes it would be possible for gays to marry and have the government recognize that marriage as equal to those of straight people.  Next month as I exchange vows with the man I love and an official authorized by the State of New York pronounces us “husband and husband,” I predict I’ll feel a thrill like few before in my life.  I want that thrill.

After the marriage takes place I’ll put up a blog post reporting if my prediction was right (and, of course, will put up a few pictures of the wedding).

 
Our Wedding Rings

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Related Posts:
"Douglas and David Get Married," December 20, 2013
"My Heart Belonged to Andrew," February 17, 2010
"Teaching English to Cats," August 6, 2010
“Catholicism and Me (Part One),” March 13, 2010
“Catholicism and Me (Part Two),” April 18, 2010
"The Evil Big Birthday Song," November 5, 2010
"The Aging Gay Rights Activist," March 24, 2010
"The History of Gay Rights in Columbus, Ohio," June 4, 2012
“Gay Marriage, the Supreme Court, and the Future,” June 26, 2013
"A Guide to the Best of My Blog," April 29, 2013

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Disowning Your Gay Children




A most extraordinary letter has been moving around the internet.  It’s from a man to his daughter who’s announced that she has disowned her son because he told her he was gay.  Here is the letter:


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Imagine her shock at receiving this letter.  From her point of view she had done the right thing, probably for religious reasons, and now is branded by her own father as a heartless bitch.  Wow!

Here’s another letter, this one from the viewpoint of the disapproving parent:


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I’m willing to suppose that in both cases the parent really loved his/her child, but felt that disowning that child was the best step for the good of the family and probably for the good of the child.  What could make a parent take this attitude?  The obvious answer is homophobia—a fear or distaste for homosexuality—but that’s too glib a response.  Where did the homophobia come from?  There are two primary sources: religion and society. 

Religion first.  If someone’s religion condemns homosexuality, as many do, a devout parent is faced with an ugly choice between the gay child and the dictates of theology.  Many religions have tempered their views towards homosexuality, and it may be possible for the parent to find a middle path here.  The parent should seek the counsel of the most sympathetic religious authority figure available.  Doubtless some will recommend disownment, but others will counsel a less horrific course.  Numerous religions have no problem with homosexual parishioners, and some parents may have the ability to switch to such a welcoming congregation.  Even in strict religions, loving parents may choose to ignore the dictates of condemnation in favor of protecting their treasured relationship with a child—bending one’s religious beliefs to the realities of the world is admirable where the religious beliefs lead to personal catastrophe.  What kind of God could condemn the protection of one’s children? 



Society may call for disownment in certain parts of the world or locales within the United States.  If all one’s family and neighbors are rabid homophobes, standing up to them can be hard, almost impossible.  Older members of the parent’s community are the likeliest homophobes.  As for handling them, good luck.  Perhaps they can be kept from knowing, perhaps they’ll be more accepting than one first imagines (homosexuals are in all families), perhaps they can be told that their views aren’t shared by the rest of the family.  We don’t always get to do easy things in life, but saving a child from being lost to his/her parents is worthy of heroic efforts.




But, the parent may ask, why has my child taken this awful course, made this awful decision?  This question presumes the child had a choice.  That presumption is simply wrong.  All the evidence and all the studies demonstrate that sexual orientation is fixed, probably at birth, but certainly before puberty.  Remember too that “straight” and “gay” are not discrete categories; the Kinsey scale demonstrates that homosexual inclinations may range from total to minor [see Related Posts below at “Homosexuality: The Iceberg Theory”].

What can be done to change the child from gay to straight?  I’ve written a prior post about this [in Related Posts below, see “How To Change Gay People Into Straight People”], but the answer is that it can’t be done.  A strong desire by the gay person to change doesn’t work.  Prayer and attending religious ministries with programs claiming to effect change don’t work.  Reparative therapy with a psychologist/psychiatrist doesn’t work (and is also wildly expensive).  I have a standing challenge to contribute $5000 to the charity of choice to anyone who can produce five cases of men who were once gay, went through some program to change, and are now completely straight after five years.  No one has taken me up on it.  You’d think that with all those programs that have been out there converting gays to straights for decades there would be thousands of successful examples.  Nope.


 

So what should a panicked parent do when confronted with a child revealed to be gay?  There’s one very important answer: contact P-FLAG immediately.  P-FLAG is a national organization for “parents and friends of lesbians and gays” (hence the initials) proven to be a wonderful resource for parents who are bewildered and confused about the homosexuality of their children.  P-FLAG exists for the very reason of helping such parents understand what is going on, teaching them how to deal with religious problems and societal disapproval, and offering support across the country.  It provides counseling, recommends books and other resources, and creates meeting groups where such parents can talk with others who’ve faced the same dilemma and found peace.  P-FLAG’s website:

One final thought has to do with what I call the “deathbed test,” useful in making any hard decision that life hands you [see “The Deathbed Test” in Related Posts below].  Imagine that you live to a very old age and, bedridden but not in pain, have a two week period to contemplate your death and review the events of your life.  What will make you slap your head and exclaim, “How could I have been so stupid?” and what will make you smile with pleasure at the remembrance?  Surely you don’t want to lie on your deathbed and recall the terrible day you cast your own child out of your life forever, a decision you’ll likely regret over and over and over, particularly as you learn more about homosexuality and realize it’s not the end of the world.
 
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The real killer in the grandfather’s letter at the top of this post is that last line:  “If you find your heart, give us a call.”  That will haunt his daughter every night as she puts her head on her pillow until she finally confronts her homophobia, battles it into a manageable corner, and bravely, tearfully, picks up the phone.
 
 
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Related Posts:
“Homosexuality: The Iceberg Theory,” April 25, 2010
“The Deathbed Test,” July 27, 2010
“How To Tell if You’re Gay,” August 31, 2010
“How To Change Gay People Into Straight People,” September 20, 2010
"How Many Homosexuals Are There in the World?" November 8, 2010
"Choose To Be Gay, Choose To Be Straight," January 25, 2011
"The Homosexual Agenda To Conquer the World," February 8, 2011
"Coming Out: How To Tell People You're Gay," March 27, 2011
"Going Undercover at an Ex-Gay Meeting," September 19, 2011
"The Presumption of Heterosexuality and the Invisible Homosexual," October 2, 2011
"Gay Bashers, Homophobes, and Me," January 27, 2012
Straight People: Thanks From the LGBT Community,” November 20, 2012
“A Homophobic Organization Throws in the Towel: Goodbye to Exodus International,” June 21, 2013
"'Who Am I To Judge?' Pope Francis and the Future of Gay Catholicism," August 7, 2013
"Republican Politicians: Reluctant Homophobes?" November 26, 2013
“Gays Will Be Able To Marry in All States By July of 2016 (and Maybe 2015): A Prediction,”       February 14, 2014
“Is It Legal To Discriminate Against Gay People?” March 19, 2014
“Does the Bible Condemn Homosexuality and Gay Marriage?” June 29, 2014
“Are Gays Really Just 1.6% of the U.S. Population?” July 22, 2014
"A Guide to the Best of My Blog," April 29, 2013